Tell ALL the TRUTH!! Don't be Selfish!!!

Have you seen the movie Liar Liar? It's about an attorney whose entire life has been built on lies. He loses his wife and continually disappoints his young son. His young son makes a wish while blowing out his birthday candles. He wishes his dad cant tell a lie for 24 hours. The rest is Jim Carrey antics when he realizes he cannot lie and doesnt know why. In the courtroom scene, where hes about to lie his head off to get his wealthy client a huge divorce settlement, we witness his pain of having to tell the truth. Of course he makes it funny, but in real life that would be no laughing matter.

It reminds me of how impossible it is for us to be truthful. As an entire planet we have come to rely on falsehood to get by with our relationships, business, personal life and government. Lying has become the rule, rather than the exception.

We tell small lies and then gradually ones entire life is lived in non- truth. As small children we came to see lying as a way of not getting punished or seem "bad" or "wrong." We lie to stay out of trouble, keep the status quo, have our secrets, cheat in relationships (which I will cordially get into later) and business. Many people have come to want and even need falsehood in their lives because truth is too painful to hear. We, as humans, have a tendency to deny truth even when it is offered as a gift. Offering up our opinions which are based on others lies, is also a common practice, and we hold them as truth. So, even our opinions are falsehoods. Egos live in falsehood in the attempt to keep others from seeing our so called faults or weaknesses. Holding lies, secrets and hidden agendas keep our attention focused on the lie, instead of more important issues. While holding these falsehoods, we have to protect them and guard them to keep them hidden, taking up precious energy we dont have time to waste. How freeing it is to live a life based on truth. Its a wonder humanity has even survived its short life living this way.

Unlike little Max from the movie we cant simply wish for truth. Even if we are in touch with our inner knowing, our ego misleads us. We have the opportunity in this lifetime to be honest with our feelings and statements, but how are we to know others truth? Every day we are overwhelmed with decisions we must make based on others opinions, or lack of true knowledge. We trust in our teachers, politicians, partners, and friends to tell us the truth, while they have no more knowledge of truth then we do. How can we know which books to bother reading (ironically I don't read hardly), or any important decisions to make? (which I am really bad at making)

After telling you all of this, I have a question for you? How would you consider when someone keeps the truth from you. Have you ever heard yourself (or someone) say/think " I can't tell all the truth because it will be too painful to hear? While you (or them) might not be technically considered lying, keeping valuable information from others to make a reasonable decision on their (your) own, is not acceptable--to me! (Ugh this frustates even more when you have told them that you can handle honesty and invite them to be so but yet still hide things from you!!!) We often think that people can't handle the truth. Who gives us the right to judge others' ability to cope with truth? Bottom line is that, personally, I rather tell and be told the truth than for someone to withhold information from me. It would hurt me a lot less knowing from the source. I know it's such a cliche, but it's right---The truth always comes up! So for those that feel they have to lie or keep information from others, please, that's a f****** (pardon my French) lame excuse. Remember that you cannot control other people's emotions. If by you being truthful, it hurts them, so be it!!! They will survive, believe me! I've been in both sides of the fence here, and either one is not pleasant. Telling all the information and being 100 % truthful will at least get you respect (in my book). I don't know if you have noticed, but people like people who are honest; people who speak their mind freely leaving little time to have you wondering about who they are and what they are all about.

The whole truth issue is very important in a relationship. In any type, as a matter of a fact. My "favorite" scenario is when you like someone or they like you more than the other way. If you do like them, well tell them. If you are not interested, but yet don't want to hurt their feelings... please stay away from this retarded excuse for being with anyone. How can you sacrifice your time, energy, "love", to just any "joe blow" just because they will get hurt if you don't feel the same back. Perhaps you feel as though you can't have what you really want, so you take 2nd best? Why are we like this? You can't lie to me and say you haven't been on either side. Not the least pleasant to be on the side where you are the one that likes this person more than they like you, right? So... if the heart of the person you like very much has been taken already... and it's not you... but they want you around???? What would you do in such a case? Lets pretend that was the plot, yet you had no clue about it. Would you rather conform yourself, or know that this other person doesn't, and wouldn't ever love you no matter what you would do? Would it make a difference if you knew this? Another piece of information from this other person is that they treat you very special!! They even tell you nice things... perhaps what you want to hear? Up to what point can anyone handle being in this situation? either party, I mean? Ultimately, it's a lie no matter how you want to see it. When two people are not totally honest, things will never work! And don't forget that the truth will come up sooner or later. Can your heart best handle the truth at an earlier stage of a relationship? Duh!! Yes!!!! Can you live a lie with a "romantic" partner you can never feel love for?

Please, never be with someone out of pity nor gratitude, or because you feel they are going to get hurt if you leave them. Pity is only for those that can't help themselves. Gratitude is a form of gesture, not a condition to love! Give all the information possible. We all are capable of handling the truth besides give them (us) the choice to make up their (our) own mind about the situation. After knowing the whole truth, it is up to us to choose to be part of that situation or not.

A couple of times in my long past, I was in a similar situation. Where then, I was the one that was very much liked/loved by this great person. The major reason of me being with him was because I wanted to have my cake and it too. If I didn't have the one I loved near (or with me), why not be with this person that is willing to do anything for me? Is that your excuse too?

from my personal experience.....

Got Responsibility?

The things for which you are responsible are the things over which you have control. If you attempt to seize control, you'll be met with fierce resistance. Yet when you offer to accept responsibility, you'll be welcomed with open arms. Lots of people are quick to claim "it's not my responsibility." By so doing, they deny themselves the best opportunities. If you desire to have an influence, if you desire to make an impact, you must be willing to take responsibility. Those who fail to exercise their responsibilities quickly lose them. Those who step up and take responsibility when no one else is willing to do so, consistently expand their level of influence and authority. Influence, effectiveness and achievement are earned, and responsibility is a critical part of the process. Any time there's a need for someone to take responsibility, there's an enormous opportunity. Those who have the foresight to accept it will rise quickly to ever-increasing success.